To be real is to exist and be seen. It is not an attribute that can be feigned.
It is an inner trait that exudes feminine grace and virtue. Real women are those who know that the future
is living, so they start acting out their prospects and do not delay till a
‘convenient’ time. They are not afraid to take bold steps towards
self-realization because it makes them less desirable as a ‘wife material’.
For them, the bible is not a book of
ornaments to be adorned ceremoniously on Sundays. A real woman understands that
the bible is the best instructional material that had ever existed. From it,
she learns not to compare herself with others because those who do are not wise
(2COR 10:12). She does not make for herself role models from women of the world,
she is aware of the sad reality that some of them are denizens of inordinate
ambitions. She is an imitator of the virtues of Deborah. She rises to the
occasion with courage and absolute dependence on God; the way Deborah did when
she led the children of Israel to battle. Real women multitask. Our great
matriarch Deborah was a Wife, Mother, Prophetess and Judge. It was not recorded
that she could not bring herself to the submission of her husband because of
the position her God given abilities conferred on her.
There is no gainsaying the fact that every
female, either they have undergone the three blood splitting cycles or not have to be conscious of the
responsibilities God placed on them as life bearers. To be a real woman is to possess the
important quality that is required for one to be so called.
I was privileged to attend a seminar where
big wings in the communication industry gathered to discuss the opportunities,
challenges and prospects of Brand Nigeria.
A germane point which came to the fore that I think we all should
identify with as a matter of urgency is the need for the family to serve as a
fertile ground to raise values that would reflect positively in the development
of the nation. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. The best person
to build a nation is the woman because she molds the character of people who
inhabit the nation. It is in cognizance of this fact that Ruby Manikan, an
Indian religious leader wrote in the London Observer saying of the week that
“If you educate a man you educate a person, but if you educate a woman you
educate a family”.
Men are the backbone in a home, but the
fact remains that the head cannot stand without the neck. The man is the head,
the woman is the neck. A real woman instills values. She brings up her children
to be intellectually, emotionally and spiritually strong. As opposed to what we
have been used to, men ought to take the lead role in shaping the degree of spirituality
in their family, a real woman is aware of this and she inculcates it in her
children.
It is instructive to mention at this point
that we live in a bizarre world where insanity has replaced normalcy with the
increasing tides of man inhumanity to man. This would not have been the case if
humans submit to the dictates of values rather than greed.
Real women are not born, they are made and
regenerated through a life of submission and obedience to God’s will. Like
excellence, to be real is a habit built consciously. How you can be one?
Simple, the training manual is available. Read through Prov 31: 10-31. Mediate,
internalize and launch yourself into a new discovery of purpose as a woman of
destiny.
Sincerely,
Hannah
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